This morning, I'm reflecting. And I want to say something to you — the mom reading this — because I think you need to hear it as much as I needed to write it.
Sometimes, I don't know why, when we achieve so much, it makes us feel like we're not achieving anything at all.
When I started Mom's Circle NG, it was just a dream. I remember reaching out to my friend Nnena with nothing but the idea and the ache behind it. And when I look at where it is today — real people trusting the platform, real moms, real stories, real connections — moms getting solutions, moms feeling seen, feeling heard, feeling happy — they don't feel like they have to do motherhood alone anymore.
But here is the thing about the human mind: you achieve, and it keeps telling you that you haven't. You build, and it whispers that it isn't enough. You carry a dream in one arm and a baby in the other, and doubt sits quietly in the corner of your heart anyway.
On this journey, you might feel like people are not really watching. But people are. Imagine having moms follow your dream — follow what you're building, see the work you put in, and want to be there. That is something to be proud of. And I am super proud of myself. Some days I doubt myself too. But that's just life. Doubt showing up is not evidence that you're failing. Sometimes it's just evidence that you care about what you're building.
The ideology we are changing
There's this ideology that motherhood in Nigeria needs to be tiresome. That it must be heavy, and lonely, and survived rather than enjoyed.
I see moms in the abroad, and they have a village. They can go for walks. They can go for exercises. They can take their children to parks, meet friends easily, move through their days like motherhood is a season of life — not the end of one.
And I won't pretend it's exactly like that here. Some things are simply not accessible to mothers in Nigeria, and pretending otherwise would be dishonest.
But we can create it. We can make it. We can build the village here — a place where a mom can find her people, ask her honest questions, laugh with someone who understands, and be more than "somebody's mother." A village is not a place you find. It's a place you build. That is what MomCircleNG is.
The honest numbers
I want to be honest with you, because you deserve honesty, not hype.
Across our platforms, we now reach more than 5,000 moms. Almost 400 mothers in our WhatsApp community. Over 2,000 on Instagram. Over 1,000 on TikTok. Thousands on our mailing list. And on the web app itself — momcircleng.app — about 400 mothers have registered to be part of this village.
Real women. Real stories. Real mothers.
We are not where we want to be. But when I see reviews from moms thanking this community for existing — when I read their words and know their lives are a little lighter because of it — that is not something to keep quiet about. It is progress. And it is success.
So say it with me, because your heart might need to hear it the way mine did: this is progress.
I'm not writing this from a mountaintop
I am a mom of two — a two-year-old and a five-month-old baby. I know the tiredness that belongs only to mothers of a small child and a smaller one. I know what it is to build in the cracks of the day, between feeds and school runs and the thousand small invisibilities of motherhood.
It has not been easy. But I know that I am doing something that is changing the lives of moms. And that knowledge holds my hand on the days doubt tries to hold the other one.
To every mom reading this who is building something while raising someone: I see you. People are watching, even when it feels like nobody is. Your quiet work counts, even when your mind refuses to count it.
Come build the village with us
Motherhood in Nigeria does not have to be tiresome. Not because we will pretend the hard parts away — but because we refuse to carry them alone. Come with your real story. Come as you are. Come and build with us.
You don't have to do motherhood alone.
Community • Support • Growth
— Princess, Founder of MomCircleNG
