When Was the Last Time You Checked In With You?

I woke up this morning thinking… "God, I need to go to the spa." 😂

And it made me realise how long it has actually been since I did something simply because I needed it. Not because it was productive. Not because it was for the children. Not because it was for work. Not because it was something that needed to be ticked off my list. Just because I wanted to feel good again.

And I think this happens to so many of us as mums.

You finally get some free time and instead of asking, "What do I need?" you ask: "What can I get done?"

If you're running a business, that free hour becomes emails, content, meetings or one more thing on the to-do list. If you're working, it becomes catching up on everything you couldn't do earlier. Even when you have help at home, somehow that little bit of freedom gets filled with another responsibility.

And before you know it, you've spent so much time being mum, wife, businesswoman, career woman, organiser, caregiver and everything in between that you start wondering: "When was the last time I really checked in with myself?"

Sometimes it's not that you've lost yourself. You've just been so busy taking care of everything else that you haven't had the space to hear yourself. 🤎

So today, I want you to pause. Not to solve everything. Just to check in with yourself.

Ask yourself these 10 questions:

1. How am I really doing? Not "I'm fine." Not "I'm managing." How am I really doing?
2. What have I been needing lately that I keep putting off?
3. What is something I used to enjoy that I haven't made time for in a long time?
4. When was the last time I did something simply because it made ME happy?
5. What part of myself have I been neglecting?
6. If I had three completely free hours tomorrow, what would I genuinely want to do with them?
7. What is currently taking most of my energy?
8. What do I need to stop carrying alone?
9. What dream, goal or part of my identity still matters to me, even though motherhood has changed my priorities?
10. What is ONE small thing I can do this week to feel more like myself again?

You don't need to book a luxury holiday. You don't need an entire day to yourself. Maybe it's the spa. 😂 Maybe it's coffee alone. Maybe it's seeing a friend. Maybe it's getting dressed up and going somewhere. Maybe it's reading. Maybe it's working on something you've been putting off. Maybe it's simply sitting quietly for 30 minutes without anyone needing anything from you.

It doesn't have to be big. It just has to be intentional. Because mama, you deserve to experience yourself as more than the things you do for everyone else.

And this is actually one of the reasons we created the Daily Reflection section on the MomCircleNG app. A little space to pause. To ask yourself how you're doing. To think about what you've accomplished. To acknowledge what you're feeling. To think about what you need next. And to keep reconnecting with the woman behind all the responsibilities.

So today, don't just ask, "What do I need to get done?" Ask yourself: "What do I need?" 🤎

Your answer might surprise you.

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